How To Forgive Others and Yourself?

I suspect that you may have thought about forgiveness as being about forgiving others, but not always yourself. I'm actually going to turn this on its head by suggesting it is more important to forgive ourselves than it is to ask forgiveness from others. In addition, we can forgive others as well in our own internal way, but first, I feel we need to forgive ourselves. Why do I say this?

Forgiving Ourselves

Forgiving ourselves takes precedence because when we are forgiven, we are in a better position to feel that we can then work on forgiving others. However, if we are not 'right within ourselves;, how can we then concentrate on being affective in forgiving others? I know it sounds a little over the top, but it is true. It is very similar to having to love ourselves before we can love others. I know some of you may think this is a selfish view point, and I respect your opinion. However, if you think about it, when you are not able to love yourself, how can you discipate respect and care for others? 


Hence, the idea here is to be able to first forgive yourself.

I met a person at a seminar who was in his 70's and was holding some issues against himself for almost 50 years.  Essentially, he was in a car accident with his then wife, and a drunk driver crashed in to them and his wife was killed. He still to this day, nearly fifty years later, held himself responsible. He was shown how to forgive himself, and you could have heard a pin drop in this room, full of three hundred people.

He learned the art of forgiving, and it was only sad that it took that long for him to achieve. 

Imagine living your life in a view point that you are no good and unworthy for fifty years?

I think you can see where I am coming from with this.

I genuinely encourage you to look through the pages on forgiveness and obtaining forgiveness and also seeing the book on forgiving yourself.

You owe it to yourself, and you will also sleep much better too.

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