Forgiveness is one of those emotions that can move mountains and clear massive boulders from in front of us. However, we need to establish some ways that work to forgive others without having to actually say anything to them directly. Yes, I did say that.
Let me explain a bit here. When things happen to us, sometimes the person who has wronged us knows it, and in some cases, they may not even be aware they have wronged us. As it turns out, it does not really matter, because what actually happens is that we create a great deal of anger, potentially, in ourselves. At this point, we start to internally self destruct. The anger and frustration is lie a cancerous ball developing in us, and we need to understand this phenomenon, to thus control it.
How often have you found that you have created a situation in your mind, much bigger than the original issue ever was? Be honest. This is not about me- it's about you solving your grievances and moving on, The only way to really move on is to be determined to be clear and effectively erase all the hurt, the anger and the annoyances in our lives.
I even know this is easy to say sometimes, but we need to take responsibility here. I call it living above the line, where instead of blaming anybody for anything, we concentrate on the way we react, or better still, respond. I know I have written on the issue of responding before, because it is so important. You need to make sure you are responding and also thinking.
Try this on for size:-
Take a seat, and actually allow yourself some quiet time, and take a blank piece of paper (or more?) and start writing all your grievances, with past, and present issues and people. Put it all on paper. Be honest here as no one else will see this paper. Just get it all out as it were, and write everything that has ever wronged you or you feel angry about.
After wards, write something along the lines of "I openly forgive and let all this hurt go. I hold no further resentment to anything or anyone".
The above is a very powerful process. After all that, burn the paper and do something else. By doing this process every few months or even weeks if you feel like it, you will develop a habit of emptying all the negative emotions from your system. It can change your life in amazing ways. Just see for yourself after trying it out.
I learnt this technique from both Catherine Ponder's books and also from the Laws of the universe.